Is there such a thing as a Good Divorce?
When you have a family it’s an emotional day making the decision to separate or divorce, whether by mutual agreement or otherwise, but as part of Good Divorce Week 2021 family law solicitors are trying to guide clients around parenting through a separation.
“When you have children they come first and divorce or separation is only the first step in the parents’ future co-parenting journey. With the benefit of experience family lawyers know that it is often difficult for couples to realise which aspects of co-parenting they will agree on or those that will lead to conflict,” said Pearson family law solicitor, Karen Kenyon.
Resolution National Divorce Week
This year, Resolution, a group of family justice professionals whose aim is to resolve issues in a constructive way, have produced a ‘parenting after parting’ guide to steer couples through the process in the best way possible for children.
The aim of Good Divorce Week starting on November 29th is to kick start a national conversation about how parents can embrace a child-focused approach to separation.
“Family relationships have come under immense pressure since the start of the pandemic and the children of parents who separate can find the experience one of the most challenging and impactful of their lives so we always ask our clients to put the interests of their children first,” added Karen Kenyon.
There are many touchpoints along the way once a couple decides to divorce and getting good legal advice from the outset is important. Building up a relationship and rapport with your legal adviser can help. Even if the separation is amicable couples can come to disagree along the way about things such as medical and therapeutic care, parenting, religion or culture, education, holidays, living and contact arrangements and their child’s social activities.
“As legal professionals we have been through this process many times, but for our clients it is new territory and we understand it can be daunting and scary,
A good solicitor will from the start talk their client through the steps involved, the realistic expectations, parental responsibility, the financial implications of divorce and any legal action which is necessary.” said Karen
Issues surrounding separation can be resolved in a variety of ways including:
- Direct Discussion – you will need legal advice for an agreement to be turned into a court order or parenting plan
- Solicitor Negotiation
- Collaborative Law
- The Court Process
How to help a child through divorce
Pearson Solicitors is offering a guide to families who are divorcing or separating. The Parenting Through Separation Guide is written by family professionals and advises parents on how to put their children first during a separation. The guide is launched during Good Divorce Week which runs from 29 Nov - 3 Dec, run by the national family justice organisation Resolution.
- If your situation allows, try to have a joint conversation when all of your children are present. Keep this age appropriate.
- Plan a series of conversations, including different follow-up conversations, if your children are of different ages. Be mindful that their reactions will depend on their age, developmental stage and their individual personality.
- Reassure your children that it is okay to feel sad or scared and showing emotion is good. They can always talk to either of you and ask questions.
- Remember you are a role model and your children are watching how you manage this situation. If they see that you are still their parents, making decisions together about them, then they will cope better.
Juliet Harvey, national chair of Resolution, added: “I’m really pleased to have the support of Pearson’s family law solicitors during Good Divorce Week. Resolution members like them do really important work in their community to help families separate in a constructive and amicable way. The more families who know about and use the free Parenting Through Separation Guide, the better equipped they will be to navigate the challenges divorce and separation brings, particularly when it comes to putting children first.”
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